Month: April 2019

Adultery and Infidelity

We are all adults and are living in a free country where any kind of relationship is possible. However, when we hear about adultery and infidelity, we often think about how is it even possible. When you are married, have kids, share responsibilities, and all how can you even think of cheating a partner. Adultery is illegal in Ilinois and is subject to fines.

Of course, love has no limits and conditions, but when you are able to comprehend one love story, another love story emerges. All the fancy love stories seem good in only movies. It takes a huge toll on the families involved and creates irreparable damage. Some people never change and keep getting away with cheating. Some get adjusted to spousal cheating and live their life like that. Getting away from such people is difficult but staying is also harder.

Proofs

Proving adultery is getting easier with the latest technologies. Call monitoring, hacking cell phone, video surveillance, audio recording, and other methods are available. We often see that private data of celebrities and billionaires are being exposed to the general public. Once the posts are public, proving innocence is also getting difficult with all the data that is rapidly spreading on social media.

Sometimes we cannot even recognize the cheating going on right in front of our eyes. Teenagers are getting smarter with SnapChats, but they can also be retrieved. High school children are able to differentiate between crush, love, like, friend, or acquaintance and set limits like that. Their brain keeps growing up to age 30 and keeps changing with each partner.

Drawing the Line

Where do you draw the line for friendships, ex-relationships, spouse, work partner, gay gal, affair, love, life, or family? Sometimes traditional practices help in self-control. Even though we live in a free country, we cannot go destroy other people’s lives. It does not matter whose fault it is, the trust in people is broken that cannot be brought back. For wild fantasies, there are legal outlets. When you can pay for sex, why do you engage with other spouses? Just because you can get away with it or because you think people fall for your charms and it is okay.

Adulthood

As adults, we are all lonely at times. It is their personal choice and decision about how each couple leads their lives. There are problems in all marriages and no one is perfect that way. In long term relationships, if we are feeling neglected, that is only a matter of time. Other times, you may be extremely happy. It is pure common sense and self-awareness that can result in peaceful relationships. Taking frequent breaks and vacations will help. Appreciating the partner and expressing love on a regular basis through small gestures will add to the positive experience.

Scott’s Law

Simple awareness of Scott’s Law will save lives on the road. Due to the holidays, summer, road construction, distracted driving, and other factors, Scott’s Law is often neglected. As a result, precious lives are being lost. Increased police patrols on the road to avoid/prevent/reduce accidents due to failure to yield to an emergency vehicle parked on the roadside.

Scott’s Law is named after a Chicago first responder who lost his life when another driver hit Scott while he was assisting a traffic accident. Also known as Move Over Law #moveover, Scott’s Law is now being enforced very strictly.

When an emergency vehicle is parked on the roadside with lights on, the oncoming driver must slow down and change lanes. This will avoid hitting the people who are present on the roadside assisting others.  It is a simple common sense law that will save lives.

Challenges

Drivers are finding difficulty in switching lanes when they saw the vehicle with blinking lights. Sometimes there are multiple vehicles on either side of the road! By the time, we switch lanes for one vehicle, there is already another one on the other side of the road. At high speeds, switching lanes is also challenging.

If there are three to four lanes, drivers may find some space to move over. However, if there are only two lanes, sometimes drivers are unable to yield or slow down and go ahead without switching lanes.

Enforcement

During long drives on high ways, you can find that police patrol have parked vehicles with lights on just to enforce Scott’s Law. We have heard recent stories that police have left the vehicle they were inspecting and gave tickets to the vehicle who did not move over.

No one wants to hit another person or get a traffic ticket. Everyone must aim at reaching their destination safely and respect the rules of the road. By following Scott’s Law, both speeding and hitting other people can be avoided. Increased awareness and reduced speeds will save precious lives.