Adultery and Infidelity

We are all adults and are living in a free country where any kind of relationship is possible. However, when we hear about adultery and infidelity, we often think about how is it even possible. When you are married, have kids, share responsibilities, and all how can you even think of cheating a partner. Adultery is illegal in Ilinois and is subject to fines.

Of course, love has no limits and conditions, but when you are able to comprehend one love story, another love story emerges. All the fancy love stories seem good in only movies. It takes a huge toll on the families involved and creates irreparable damage. Some people never change and keep getting away with cheating. Some get adjusted to spousal cheating and live their life like that. Getting away from such people is difficult but staying is also harder.

Proofs

Proving adultery is getting easier with the latest technologies. Call monitoring, hacking cell phone, video surveillance, audio recording, and other methods are available. We often see that private data of celebrities and billionaires are being exposed to the general public. Once the posts are public, proving innocence is also getting difficult with all the data that is rapidly spreading on social media.

Sometimes we cannot even recognize the cheating going on right in front of our eyes. Teenagers are getting smarter with SnapChats, but they can also be retrieved. High school children are able to differentiate between crush, love, like, friend, or acquaintance and set limits like that. Their brain keeps growing up to age 30 and keeps changing with each partner.

Drawing the Line

Where do you draw the line for friendships, ex-relationships, spouse, work partner, gay gal, affair, love, life, or family? Sometimes traditional practices help in self-control. Even though we live in a free country, we cannot go destroy other people’s lives. It does not matter whose fault it is, the trust in people is broken that cannot be brought back. For wild fantasies, there are legal outlets. When you can pay for sex, why do you engage with other spouses? Just because you can get away with it or because you think people fall for your charms and it is okay.

Adulthood

As adults, we are all lonely at times. It is their personal choice and decision about how each couple leads their lives. There are problems in all marriages and no one is perfect that way. In long term relationships, if we are feeling neglected, that is only a matter of time. Other times, you may be extremely happy. It is pure common sense and self-awareness that can result in peaceful relationships. Taking frequent breaks and vacations will help. Appreciating the partner and expressing love on a regular basis through small gestures will add to the positive experience.

Add the Magic

Feel stagnant and neglected in a relationship. Not getting much attention from life partner. A common feeling among busy couples and increasingly cluttered life styles. Add little magic and spruce up the relationship to enjoy and have more fun.

With busy life and work schedules, many couples do not appreciate the better half in their lives. The silent supporter and secret admirer can be neglected and left out in some cases. Expression of love does not harm and will not let you down after all the time you have spent together in the life.

Ego and misunderstandings dominate the underlying passion and result in conflicts many a times. Every couple have their own way of getting back to normalcy.  Sometimes even subtle hints would not work and explicit expression might be necessary. Here are the top ten ways to rekindle the life:

  1. Say what is on your mind rather than indicating
  2. View the partner as you were during the initial years
  3. Forget all the problems and think about pleasant times spent
  4. Plan outings and get together with family and friends
  5. Movie or other public events may reduce the tension
  6. Nice words and being respectful always helps
  7. Gifting on important occasions demonstrates affection
  8. Being specific on your expectations might clear out some air
  9. Positive talk and behavior are important in all circumstances
  10. Be nice and show respect however lenient your partner is
As family grows and responsibilities increase, couples tend to misjudge the partner. Ego and misunderstanding can ruin any relationship. It is crucial to get back to the basic rules and expressing. Finally, it is you who can help you and responsible for having a good life. 🙂