Tag: Men

Getting older, Feeling younger? You are not Alone

Deny the grey hair and ignore the growing children. Are you old enough to be old. How old are you feeling. It is a universal feeling that people do not feel as old as they really are. Men tend to push-up old age until 60s while women may feel old as soon as they see the grey hair. Anyhow,
You are not alone in the ‘growing old – feeling young’ phenomenon. The whole world is with you!

As per the saying, ‘you are as old as you feel’, there is no limit on when you actually decide to be old. While the age may catch up and delay your physical abilities and features, your heart may feel ten to fifteen years younger. Or you may be stuck up in the twenties as well.

Well, according to the people around you and per the social rules, you are expected to behave according to your age. That is very well true. But how far can you pretend to be like that
when you are not actually feeling that way. Your actions and talking may reflect your wisdom and experience but it is possible you have never realized that you came so far.

For some people it is also possible to feel ten years older at times and fifteen years younger at times. Further, when you compare the people born in the same year, you may be shocked to see how old they look! Perhaps, you also will realize some day that you have grown up at last.

You may also deny that many people have passed away in the recent years and the young ones born are already going to school. In the immediate family, you may have so many additions and losses without realizing how far you have come. People may look at you as a role model or an example in their lives, but you don’t feel that old yet.

The feeling is common particularly around holidays and special occasions such as .. Hmm, The birthdays. Your child might be bewildered at how old are you and how out dated you are, you keep denying the fact. That’s quite common as well. Sometimes, you might also wonder when did science and technology become so advanced that you are taken aback by it.

It is also important to have a purpose and a job to keep you occupied. Further, do not stop enjoying the life and appreciating the blessings in your life. Some volunteering and some spiritualism also may help in the moral satisfaction part.

Okay, so all the young people out there, don’t worry about the age. Keep doing what you want to and what you are supposed to and the age won’t bother you. Stay young at heart and stay happy. Don’t forget the healthy diet and frequent exercise which can really keep you young. You will catch up someday. 🙂

Is early marriage the only solution

Recently, the Chief Minisiter of Haryana in India made a statement early marriage of girls is the solution to avoid rapes. As if molestation and abuse of women would stop with just marrying. Rapes and abuse of women go unnoticed and unsolved though it is a major security issue to the society itself. The developed nations with strict laws and advaced law enforcements also are facing this emabarassing issue.

Women have been playing the equal in the world starting from the evolution of human beings. They have been taking up multi tasks such as the unique task of child bearing, raising good citizens, taking care of the family members, educationg self and society. Modern women have been exploring careers in every field and there has been no limit for their achievements. But, in every field women are so vulenerable due to thier natural shyness and soft nature.

World has seen many women leaders and exemplary behaviors. But, I’m sure all those women too must have faced some discrimination due to their gender. Families and soceity do recognise the importance of the girl’s role in the growth. They are willing to educate the girl child and let them explore their dreams. Governments are providing 30 percent reservation for women in all fields. But, are we educationg them enough to handle the pressures of exploitation and abuse.

Families and governments should encourage the victims of rape and abuse to come forward and report. It is unjust that the culprit roams away freely and the victim has to suffer the abuse throughout the life. There must be strict enforcements and punishments in the society for such offenders. To be able to get away from the offense will help the rapisits to commit more crimes and torture more women.

Awareness of abuse has increased in the society. School children are being encouraged to stand up and talk about the abuse and report to the elders and school authorities. Various graphical demonstrations and  methods of abuse are shown to children to let them know what exactly is getting abused mean. But, the children are being helpless in the cases where immediate family members themselves are abusing the children. In those cases, to avoid embarassment even the reported cases are going unpunished due to societal pressures.

Just marrying at an early age will not solve the problem. What if the attacks continue after the marriage. How badly the society is changed that they gang rape a woman and spread the video of it on the internet. We all should be ashamed of such people. Why we are letting them get away is a constant burning question. The basic mindset of the society and men has to be changed through awareness programs and law enforcement. To respect women and treat them with proper etiquette and having the fear of getting punished is a must for all men.

Sometimes, I wonder why are we turning in to animals after all this development and scientific advancements. Where is the basic control of the mind and why is it okay to do whatever we want. We have been given freedom to pursue our dreams and make our fortune but are we allowed to mistreat others?

Valentine’s Day

Every year February fourteenth is celebrated as the Valentine’s day to celebrate love and affection between loved ones. Some consider it an opportunity to demonstrate their love. It may add a unusual pressure on some teens and children. For some, it is an unnecessary custom and a waste of effort. 🙂

Rationale

Historical and literary facts may differ in the exact reason behind the celebration. But, Valentine’s day is popular in the modern day. Children and adults celebrate Valentine’s day to add some joy during the cold winter days. School children exchange valentines in their classrooms. It provides an excellent chance for lovers to express their interests and confess their feelings about their partner.

Gifts – To dos

Valentines, greeting cards, chocolates, candies, flowers, jewelery, perfume, personalized photo frames, and so on are popular gifts for the Valentine’s day. Some may create special arts and crafts to express their love. Some think that special breakfast, outside activity, dinner, or a spa are also alternate gift ideas. Writing poems about your loved ones is also a good idea. The perfect gift may differ based on a women’s choice. Wedding proposals are common on the Valentine’s day.

Taboos – Do nots

Letting the female partner plan for the day, sending neutral and formal messages, expecting a gift from the women are some of the taboos of Valentine’s day. Some argue that Valentine’s day is for celebrating the women in your life and pampering them. While others think that both men and women should equally participate and  exchange gifts.

Whatever may be your style, make it special for your partner and enjoy the day. It is all about expressing love and building the relationship. Let me know your ideas for a Valentine’s day. 🙂